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Me Dad Backyard 3             My life as a little boy was always spent on the run, guarding myself from hurt.  I grew up with three very strong personalities: mom, dad and my brother.   I spent a lot of time alone, being quiet and constructing a private world where I felt safe.  Mom was the smotherer.  Dad was the strict disciplinarian.  Brother was unpredictable and generated fear in me at every turn.  When I finally left my childhood home, there was a lot of living and a lot of conversation to catch up on.

As I have said before, I don’t believe anyone is born gay.  I believe boys are born “Sensitive, Artistic and Creative”.   This exposes them to pain and hurt.  They have their emotions crushed very easily and are then susceptible to the lies of the enemy that says they were born different.  Eventually, through small developmental steps, these boys are led to believe they are “born gay.”  The seeds planted in my heart as young man were nourished by feelings of abandonment and loneliness.  I grew up to be a fearful adult, confused and very comfortable being alone.  There was a lot of pain to deal with in my childhood and teenage years.  A therapist once described the homosexual side of my life as my minds way of coming up with an entirely different lifestyle to manage my pain.

I didn’t have much a relationship with my father until I was about 27.  I had distanced myself from my father at an early age.  He scared me.  He wasn’t as sweet and nice as mom.  He made us attend church and was a lot less emotional than.  We clashed…a lot.  Many boys who develop homosexual tendencies suffer from that same disconnect with dad at an early age.  My disconnect left me with feelings of being lost and bewildered.  I spent the rest of my life looking for a father figure or another man to love me and give me a sense of value.

When I returned to Jesus at the close of 1998, God restored my relationship with my father.  It wasn’t immediately perfect.  It took a lot of willingness and work.  There were emotional bumps and bruises.  We both had to lovingly forgive each other.   I let satan drive a wedge in between my father and I for far too long.  Through my own stubbornness, I let satan led me into homosexuality, cheat me out of a relationship with my father and then convince me that my father didn’t love me.  I learned to serve God by watching my father serve others.  I remembered his stories of being led by the Holy Spirit to stop by people’s houses and share the gospel.  My dad was my first spiritual hero.  He was the one that paved the way to the gospel, even as I was telling him I could care less.  He would often pray in the living room of my childhood home until 3 am for my brother and I.  He lifted my name up to God until I was ready to call on the name of God myself.  One of my greatest hopes for young gay men who struggle with homosexuality today is that they have praying fathers.  I pray for restoration with their fathers.  I pray that restoration leads them into relationship with their heavenly father.

No matter how full of holes my relationship with my dad is, his words will always help restore me when the world attacks me with theirs.  Our heavenly Father’s words have that same healing power my friends.  God’s word says that you are fearfully and wonderfully made.  He says that there is no place that you can go that is beyond his reach.  There is freedom from homosexuality.  I celebrate it daily.  Don’t let the lies of the enemy determine your fate.  God has a purpose and a plan for you beyond the scope of homosexuality.

In the next few weeks, I will be stepping into full time ministry.  My plan is to share Jesus Christ and the truth about homosexuality with as many as will listen.  My father has been walking this journey with me.   Dad called today to tell me that I was courageous.  He said I was courageous for going against the grain and quitting my job to reach the gay community with the gospel of Jesus Christ.  I have waited my whole life for those powerful words of affirmation from him.  What an amazing day!  He shared the following scriptures with me as well.  Yay God!

Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself also in the Lord,
And He shall give you the desires of your heart.”

Psalm 37:25  “I have been young, and now am old;
Yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken,
Nor his descendants begging bread.”

Romans 1:16 “For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of God to salvation for everyone who believes, for the Jew first and also for the Greek.”